The 5 C’s: Clarity, Communication, Composure, Core, and Competence leads to Confidence. Here is a final overview of quick and concrete steps to build your confidence the next time you need it including ways to build competence.
Confidence doesn’t come naturally to most of us, which is why having a game plan to help pump yourself up will help you be your most confident self. Committing to creating a culture of confidence is also a great way to enrich your life and the lives of those around you.
Confidence is one of the most difficult traits to master, which is why I’ve spent the last several months focusing on different strategies to help boost your confidence when you start to feel down. All of us feel unconfident sometimes, which is why it is important to recognize that feeling as just a feeling; like every other feeling, it will pass.
The 5 C’s of confidence are there to help you develop a concrete plan for getting your confidence back. In my first post about the 5 C’s, which you can find here, I introduced the concept of the 5 C’s as a “workout routine” to exercise your confidence until it feels natural. You can bring those “workouts” out whenever you need them—confidence isn’t stagnant! Just because you’re having trouble being confident today, doesn’t mean you won’t feel better tomorrow.
In this final post of this series, I will address the last C of the 5 C’s: Competence. Before my discussion of the 5 C’s comes to an end however, I’d like to take a step back and review each C so that you have a quick reference point:
The First C: Clarity
Clarity is the first C because it means defining your goals and bringing clarity to your intentions; if you don’t know where you’re going, how will you get there?
– Research what you want- what qualifications are needed?
– Gain experience in what you want to do
– Do informational interviews. Talk to people in that area or profession and listen to the advice they give you.
– Practice making faster decisions! Menus are a great way to practice- give yourself a small window of time to choose and then be confident in what you chose.
– Reflect on your key motivational drivers, values, and strengths.
– Try future projection: consider what words of advice or encouragement your “future best self” would give you.
You can read more about Clarity here.
The Second C: Communication
Once you know what you want and you’ve figured out how to get it, claim your voice and speak up for yourself.
– Claim your voice and step in to your confidence!
– Focus on others- it will help you get outside of your head and give you a wider perspective.
– Think about “what’s in it for them” as much as “what’s in it for me?”
– Embrace silence- sometimes, purposeful silence increases people’s perceptions of your confidence.
– Be articulate in your communication- don’t feel like you have to rush through it. Take your time to say things that matter.
You can read more about Communication here.
The Third C: Composure
Composure is focused around being calm and finding a productive, yet peaceful, state of mind.
– Get in to a centered state of mind and practice different breathing techniques
– Listen to a song that makes you feel excited and powerful!
– Concentrate on a mantra or quote that helps you feel centered
– Five yourself a pep talk and remind yourself of everything wonderful that you have done.
– Declutter your work environment- your space should help you feel focused and at peace.
– Encourage confidence in others. Not only will it help you develop strong relationships, but it’ll help boost your confidence and make you feel positive.
You can read more about Composure here.
The Fourth C: Core- Mind and Body
Fostering confidence in your core is an important step towards being able to build your confidence whenever you need to. Building a confident core means treating your mind and your body in a way that will help you do your best to achieve your goals.
– Practice presence. Don’t dwell on the past and don’t skip the present moments by having your mind fast foreword to the future—just focus on where you’re at in this present moment.
– Identify your values. Being clear about what you believe in helps you make decisions that you can feel proud of.
– Take time to celebrate and document past success! Appreciate what you’ve already accomplished and let it fuel you to accomplish more.
– Try new things to practice getting out of your comfort zone
– Learn to “fail foreword.” Learn from your failures instead of getting stuck in them.
– Practice your presence physically. Practice taking up space.
– Practice good posture.
– Practice self-care. Get enough sleep, find time to relax, and find time to take care of your own needs.
– Select attire that makes you feel confident and excited about the day.
– Find a talisman that boosts your confidence, like a special ring or coin that you can keep in your pocket.
– Practice a power pose!
You can read more about mental and physical core here.
And now, we’ll address the Fifth C: Competence
One of the best ways to be confident about what you’re doing is to be educated and informed, and that means being competent in it.
– Build your skills. Never stop learning new things.
– Hone what you’re known for to become more and more of expert (it doesn’t happen overnight but little by little)
– Be a resource and pay attention to what the people around you need. When you pay attention to WIIFT (what’s in it for them) vs focusing solely on WIIFM (what’s in it for me), it shifts your self-awareness and it triggers confidence.
– Pay attention to the company you keep. Spend more time with people who lift you up and as little time as possible with people who try to pull you down. For people who do try to pull you down, remind yourself that their actions say more about them than you.
– Be uniquely you. Stop comparing yourself to others.
– Cultivate a realistic higher perception of self. Don’t feel like you always need to exceed expectations, but at least meet them to the best of your ability.
– Don’t procrastinate! Procrastination makes you feel worse about yourself. Do what you dread the most at the beginning of the day and then the rest of the day will feel easy.
– Claim and celebrate your successes. When you overlook what you’ve achieved, it’s easy to feel like you are lacking. Recognize your accomplishments.
Confidence comes from within, but it doesn’t have to stop there. Create a culture of confidence wherever you go and you’ll feel more confident too. Encourage those around you to be their best selves and help them feel recognized. If you greet the world by inspiring the best in yourself and others, the world may not always smile back but you will be making a positive difference. Committing to claiming your confidence may not always be easy—some days are impossibly hard and some challenges seem too big to face—but having a strategy ready for those most difficult days will help you be your most confident self and take on the world, one brave step at a time.