Having the right attitude can increase your confidence and lead to more success. Once you’ve identified your goal, it’s important to have a positive attitude and encourage yourself to be the best that you can be.
I’ve spent the last few months writing about what I call the 5 C’s of Confidence: Clarity, Communication, Composure, Core, and Competence. You can read more about the 5 C’s here.
The 5 C’s are concepts that build on each other which, when practiced regularly, can help you feel and act more confidently. Last month, I wrote about Communication and confidence. You can read more about that here, but the most important part of learning to communicate confidently is finding your voice and articulating what you want to those around you. Communication is about more than the words you use, its about developing a community which will help encourage you to succeed.
Alongside Communication is Composure, which focuses on creating a state of mind which will help you achieve your goals. It’s easy to feel nervous before a meeting or when starting on a new project—that’s usually when I start asking myself, can I really do this? The answer, obviously, is yes, but it doesn’t always seem like it at the time and those doubts are hard to disguise, especially in front of others. Before doing something that you might be nervous about, develop a game plan that includes strategies to put yourself in the right mindset for the event. For example, listen to a power song (link) and concentrate on a mantra or quote that helps you feel more powerful. One that I often use is, “Just when the caterpillar thought its life was over, it became a butterfly.” Another good one is, “Nothing ventured; nothing gained.” I also like to think of phrases that help boost my confidence like, “you’ve got this,” or “we’re all just human.”
Another great way to build yourself up is by giving yourself a pep talk. Jasmine Brett Stringer, author of Seize Your Life, includes a link to a great “fill-in-the-blank” pep talk template in her blog post on self confidence which you can find here. If you don’t have time for a pep talk, or just need a quick boost, positive affirmations are another great way to put yourself in a confident mind set. Take a quiet moment and remind yourself, either verbally or internally, “I believe in and have confidence in myself.” Other examples might include, “I love and accept my true self,” or, “I can do anything I set my mind to.”
While it is important to create a confident mindset by directing your thoughts, the environment that you work in and create for yourself can also be an important part of having a positive outlook. Decluttering your work environment can be a great way to focus and move forward more confidently. Read more about the importance of decluttering here.
Finally, a great way to create a confident mindset is by encouraging those around you. Creating your work environment is about more than just where you sit—its about having good relationships with the people around you. When you notice that someone isn’t acknowledged for a useful comment or great idea they shared, help them to be heard. Examples of this might include:
“Jane made a good point. Could you reiterate that, Jane?”
“I think Joe had something that he wanted to say.”
“Jill has mentioned an idea I think we should consider.”
By lifting up those around you, you not only give them confidence but increase their confidence in you. When you help someone else, it also helps you to feel more positive and confident about yourself. Composure is an important step in the 5 C’s because it is a part of the mind set that you bring in to your business and your everyday life. Inspire success within yourself by keeping focused on where you’re going and giving yourself the encouragement to get there. Confidence and a positive mindset go hand-in-hand. Practice thinking positively and it will soon boost your confidence.