Claiming your voice and communicating what you want not only increases your confidence, but helps you connect with others who can help move you toward your goals.
Learning to use your voice is an important step toward achieving your goals and increasing your confidence in yourself and the work that you do.
In my last post, I addressed the first of the 5 steps—or 5 C’s—to claiming confidence, which is Clarity. Today, I’m going to address the second step: Communication. Once you’ve clarified what you want and how to get it, it is important to harness your voice to not just help yourself get closer to your goal, but to help others as well. Communicating your goals to those around you will give you greater confidence in what you are working to achieve, and will help you connect with and receive support from others who share similar goals.
Communicating with confidence is ultimately about claiming your voice. In the last post, I encouraged you to look inwardly at who you are and who you want to be; now its time to think about how you want to authentically portray yourself to your peers. Think of how you want to be seen and heard. Channel that in to how you carry yourself and how you are communicating with others. For women in particular, claiming our voice can be a particularly powerful act towards increasing our confidence.
While it is important to identify who you are and what you want, you’ll also want to recognize what holds importance for those around you. Focusing on others can also help you gain perspective and see what may, or may not, be working. Think about “what’s in it for them” just as much or more than “what’s in it for me” so that you can frame your request or suggestion from a place of confidence in how it will positively affect them. Hopefully, they will do the same for you, and you can grow your connection in a way that is win/win.
Another necessary part of communicating with confidence is learning to embrace silence. Purposeful pauses increase perceptions of confidence, and sometimes people (including yourself) just need space to think. You’re better off saying less and listening, than saying something just to hear yourself speak.
A self-fulfilling prophesy happens when you increase the perception of confidence. Perceived confidence triggers you to feel more confident, which in turn further increases others’ confidence in you. Be articulate in your communication and take the time that you need. Practice your communication skills by being an advocate for others as well as yourself to find people with whom you can grow and finally, take pride in your voice and use it confidently knowing that it is as unique and powerful as you. Know that claiming your own confidence and voice in your communications will help others to claim theirs, too and bring everyone to a higher place.